Anchoring
To me anchoring is a very important part of
NLP & SS. If you bring out strong immediate emotions or
feeling in someone - you can then anchor that emotion/feeling
continually to a touch, sound, picture etc. It is best to discover
what kind of person you are dealing with - are they Kinesthetic?
Visual? Aural? (It is not a good practice to lump people into
these specific categories, but if you were to take a general
concensus people will fall into one or the other. However, people
can be one, the other or all of the above!)
SOUND
Examples:
Girl at night club - "Hear the music? Listen to that beat!
Just POUNDING inside your head? Isn't it funny how everytime
you hear that bom bom bom, you can't
help but think of me/my voice seems to pop into your head?"
- this is a DJ original (I believe)
DJ
In this example you have anchored the sound of the music to
your voice or image of you. If she stays at the club - the more
she hears the music, the more she will think of you!
The sound of your voice is a very powerful anchor. If you link
a seductive voice to her imagining the shower, bath, sex - everytime
she hears your voice or imagines hearing it, she think of you
- RJ.
VISUAL
Examples:
Girl at coffee house - "I can tell something about you.
You are a very visual person. You are the type of person that
can be talking to someone, but making movies in your head about
somewhere else you would rather be. Do me a favour, picture
in your mind, something that motivates you"
Her : 'Ok'
Me : 'What is it?'
Her : 'Getting married' (yikes!)
Me : 'Now notice how if you shrink that
picture down so it is really small, you really find how it seems
less motivating?'
Her : 'Yeah!'
Me : 'But there is a big blank spot that
needs to be filled, right? Isn't it exciting, that as you imagine
that blank spot, a picture of me and you - just going out and
having some fun, just POPS into its place. Makes it seem like
something you would want to do, doesn't it?' - RJ
Now visual can be internalizing pictures or what they see in
front of them. Internal pictures last longer (IMHO) because
they can take them whereever they go. In this example you have
anchored what motivates her with the image of you and her going
out. So everytime she think of what motivates her, she think
of you.
KINESTHETIC
(KINO)
Example:
Girl beside you - "You know what it is like when you first
step into a hot bath or shower? You can feel the steam coming
at you and surrounding you? It is so relaxing and stimulating
at the same time [grab her wrist and squeeze gently] As you
feel me squeeze gently, can you feel the heat and wetness reach
every part of your body? Feels exciting, doesn't it? And the
more I touch you, the more excited you find yourself becoming'
RJ & DJ
KINO is a great way to anchoring because touching in general
is very intimate. To touch someone, they have to let you into
their personal space.
