What I found works for me is trying different patterns each day - ON EVERYONE. Example :

Today : I tried the 'its too bad you can't, but if you could...' on three girls.

Yesterday : 'You're laughing, see it feels good to laugh? Doesn't it, don't you? The more you laugh, the more you can't help but think about me'

Tomorrow : I am going to try some weasel phrases 'Won't you be surprised when you find yourself thinking about me in a very special way...' or 'if you were too...', 'I wonder what its like too...'

The next day I am going to try time distortion.

My logic behind this is simple : SS is HUGE! The material behind it is vast and there is alot to learn. There is simply too much to memorize and take in all at once. When you break it down, it becomes easier organize and work with.

I am finding that the more I do this, the more I interrelate the phrases in everyday conversation. Instead of trying to learn it all at once, I use a little bit each day. Pretty soon I will be able to use it all fluidly in everyday conversation. Now this does not mean I use a specific pattern exclusively - sometimes other phrases or patterns get shoved in there - that is the goal. That is great, it means I am becoming comfortable with the stuff! (I try not to use the same content - remember process over content, but these are just examples - each situations dictates different content. Some of my best subjects are people I already know!) I find that I am using it all the time now - even if I just slip in a weasel phrase when I am speaking - I am still using it and getting more familiar with it.

The goal is to get it to sound natural to everyone - so use it with everyone!