Tonality

Tonality is a vital part of any conversation. It can convey how you feel and your emotional state. The tone of someone's voice can put you at ease or make you feel scared - in fact it can run the gamut of human emotions! It is therefore important to know how YOU SOUND TO OTHER PEOPLE. What is your tonality like? Are you whiney? Are you monotone? Are you a fast talker? Do you sound sexy?

Delivering good tonality is like being a good actor. You need to project what you feel to the audience, clearly and consisely so that if the audience can't see your face or body - the overall feeling comes through. To get that feeling projected it is best to create the sounds necessary in your diaphram (stomach), not your throat/lips/lungs. Put your hand on your stomach while you say a few words - feel the words and feelings start there.

So what next? My advice is to get a tape recorder or use the microphone on your computer and read something in a normal speaking voice. Rewind it and listen to it. How do you sound? Now, create a list of Unconscious Commands (UC - in green) in a regular conversational framework and read that, putting sexy and diaphramatic emphasis on the UC. Record that and listen.

Example:
(speaking to a girl)
Her : How are you?
Me: You know what? I am having one of those all time great days. The kind of day where you feel everything in front of you is great. Where you look past the surface and see what is really important in your life. Imagining how good it feels just to be alive.

I have had a girl recently tell me I sound like a hypnotist on those audio tapes - just because I changed my tonality. The fact that she was into to me showed that it worked!

Lastly, it is very hypnotic to PAUSE.
Talk. PAUSE. Talk. PAUSE. Talk. PAUSE. Talk. PAUSE.
Have you ever had a conversation with someone that gets stoned alot? Listen to them - they pause and talk slowly (peppered alot of times with umm...). In a way, it is like they are formulating what to say - they are thinking about it (in defence of people that like to get stoned - I have nothing against you! In fact, I find pausing before answering shows alot of thought into what they are going to say instead of just saying what comes to mind.)
PAUSING causes the listener to imagine what YOU are going to say next. They GO INTO A TRANCE - and start to follow the speaking and breathing pattern.