Dohn Joe : ' Basically there is that feeling you can close that experience brings. You DON'T get a successful close if she LOOKS AROUND while talking to you and eye contact is scarce. That's a clear sign she's not into you and you can't do much about that. (If she looks down it's ok.) I know this from experience, there are chicks who are just not into me and that is that. Another negative body language element is if she has her arms crossed over her chest - that means total lack of openness towards you. You DO get a close when you feel you have built rapport with her and you feel she'd like some more. Then say you got to go and she'll be in the right mood for giving you her whereabouts. She'll see the close with you as an opportunity to get more of a fun thing. If you can't read any signs and need to go, try to close anyway. There's nothing to lose - and don't forget, attempting to close brings you the close or nothing, while NOT attempting to close brings you a solid nothing.'

Alan Palmer : ' I also stay alert for reciprocal kino. I've found a chick will touch me as she talks, if she feels rapport with me - typically light touches on the arm or hand as she makes a point. If she doesn't touch me at all, then, depending on how long we have been talking, I take that as a bad sign. I also listen to her voice tonality very carefully and check whether it's congruent with her body position (open or closed) and her facial expression.'

The most important part of closing is not to supplicate. You don't want to bow down and say 'please give me your phone number/email/sleep with me' You have to structure a way to get the number/email or her to 'come back to your place' without making it look like you are begging for it. Here are a few ways of closing:

1) How can we continue this? Structuring the sentence/pattern in such a way that it pushes the decision squarely on her shoulders and makes it look like it was her idea! 'I had a great time talking to you. Is there a way we can continue this conversation later/another time?' or 'I had a great time talking to you, can you think of a way that we could get together?'. It motivates her to give you her number or sit down and have coffee with you then and there. RJ

2) Get out quick - girls love a mysterious stranger . Leaving after the initial contact is a great way to push down your own private nervousness and get her wondering. Tell her you are very busy but would like to get together with her at a later date - make the exact date or time there - and split. Make up a meeting, someplace you have to go. Show her you are a person on the move and therefore important. Let them go home and think they just met a mysterious stranger! DJ