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As I learn, I try to write down new ideas. This helps me to organize my thoughts and to build a clearer picture of what NLP and SS is all about. It is not the scope of this website to list everything about SS and NLP - just the information I am learning.
My Philosophies
These are my philosophies on various aspect of sex, men and women. As a human being that is not infallible, I am not always right. But I do have an open-mind. If you think am wrong, let me know. I do not mindiscovering something new. I am not opposed to change, it is the only way I will learn. Having said that, I can only speak for what I have experienced thru my life - and that experience has taught me that there is always something new to discover.
Why do men want to see two woman together sexually and why is it so appealing? Why is it beyond gross when two guys are together? Well, here is my simple answer.
Two girls together is STILL FEMININE (and sexy)
Two guys together is NOT MASCULINE.
See the difference?
A woman's body is beautiful, curvey and hairless while a man's is angular and is built for more of a utilitarian purpose.
Why are more women bi-curiosious then men? (I hope!).
To a woman, sex is more of an emotional state of being, more of a merging of mind/body and heart than it is to a man - it is NOT ALL ABOUT BEING PHYSICAL! With men, sex is physical, it is about the animal inside, getting it on and getting off (except of course when you deeply love someone).
It takes more to satisfy a woman than a man. A man can climax very quickly, if he is excited enough, whereas a woman (in most cases) needs to have the mental and emotional in synch before this happens.
This is one of the reasons why they have sexual power over men. It has been commonly said that girls are as horney as guys. Very true, but they demand alot more of themselves to satisfy that hunger. With guys unfortunately, sometimes any hole will do. It does not work that way with women. If a girl is sexually active with a man and does not feel right about something - be it the relationship, something at work or home life - it is alot harder to reach climax because of this dichotomy between what her heart/mind is saying and what her body wants.
I know that RJ says 'don't buy them dinner'. But sometimes, women want the whole romantic notion of love, dinner and dancing before they let you in. So keep that in mind next time she won't lay it on the table for you.
Women are emotional. Guys are logical.
It seems simple enough. But when dealing with the opposite sex, looks can be deceiving. Men are easy to figure out. We want (in no particular order):

1. Sex
2. Friends
3. Drinking
4. Sleep
5. Sports
6. Not to be hassled
7. Routine (for the most part)

Why women have a hard time understanding and catering to these needs are because they are more prone to emotion and impulse. When a man gets angry and says what he thinks - that is based on his anger - emotion (which hopefully does not rear its ugly head too often). Women, on the other hand, are like that all the time. They cannot understand why we want to spend time with our friends drinking instead of hanging out watching a movie cuddling with them.
Isn't it funny that when the boys have a night out, the girls always want to come. But when the girls have a night out, guys never even ask - happy to sit home and watch the game on TV. It is routine, it is relaxed and easy going nature that drivers men.
Emotion drives women. That is why they buy hundreds of pair of shoes, dozen of different colour dresses etc. It is all based on the emotional need that needs to be fulfilled right then and there. They might be going out to a club that night and have a brown skirt they want to wear, heaven forfend that they wear a black pair with the brown. Hence, a new pair of shoes, probably a purse too, maybe a scrunchy for the hair and some new makeup...
Men, on the other hand (in most cases) will not buy dozen of pairs of shoes cause the pair they have had for the last 3 years are still in good shape. If they still function, why get a new pair - that is logic.
Why are girls believe in fate? Psychics? Astrology?
I believe the long and short of it is: they would rather blame their good/bad decisions on the 'stars/fate' rather than hold themselves accountable for the decision they make. A good example is in dealing with relationships:
'I guess we are just not meant to be', she tells you.
What does this leave you with? Nothing but a sense of loss and lack of understanding - you cannot change it because 'it is up to the fates'.
Ok, here it is from the female perspective - a perspective that can't lose.

Her: Ok, just broke up with a guy and I am dating a someone new. If things don't work out with this new guy, maybe my ex-boyfriend will take me back. If he takes me back, I guess we are 'meant to be/destined' (win), if he doesn't want to be with me, I guess 'we were not meant to be/destined' (win).

Although she does not get the guy she wants in the later part, she still believes that her decision was sound. She does not have to blame herself in the decision because 'fate' made it so - you really can't argue with fate, can you? For me, I would never want to feel that helpless, but it seems girls don't mind being lead around by this notion. The good part about this belief is that you can use it to open and get a girl interested in you if you have a little knowledge in it.

I find this dichotomy in alot of woman's thinking. Another example:
I was in a rut at one point, long time between relationships. Whenever a girl offered me advice it was, without fail:
a) You are trying too hard (if I told them that I wasn't trying at all),
 b) you are not trying hard enough.
c) You must not be ready (if I told them I was single for 2 years),
d) It must not be your time.

Again it is easy to see this win/win situation that they put their line of think in. If A+B does not equal C, then D can be substituted and vise-versa.

Why do guys hate wearing condoms?
I have never had a problem with condoms. I don't think it makes that much of a difference - well at least not enough of a difference to make me risk aids, herpes, genital warts etc (and that is the tip of the iceberg). I believe it is a myth perpetuated by guys to convince girls (and themselves) that they are not worth wearing. I have heard too many guys say, ' Aids is a homosexual desease', 'I won't catch anything', 'I only had it in her for about 10 minutes!'. Well, to me the risk is not worth the reward. I think condoms are ok, there is still alot of sensation and it still feels great - without so much of the risk. It should be warned though that crabs and even gential warts (among others STD's) can be caught even while wearing a condom. Condoms are 95% effective against pregnacy, so even they are not full-proof - but I would rather have a 95% chance against it than no chance.

Resistance to sex:
Resistance comes in the forms of past experience and societal pressures. We are still, in the end of it all, animals. We need to procreate - the great feelings that come along with sex (orgasms and becoming excited) make sure of that. If this is true, along with the fact that the planet is divided up pretty evenly amongst males/females, why am I not getting laid every night? I believe the reason why one girl chooses a certain type is based upon what societal norms or past experience. Societal Norms : High school is like a smaller version of different aspects of society (albeit less mature). Cliques develop : business people date business people, artsy people date artsy people etc(although as always there can be a intermixing of the two - breaking away from the norm) and rumours spread. So what is stopping a great looking girl (or any girl for that matter) from walking up and banging an average guy on the street?

Societal pressure -- RESISTANCE -- loosely based around the idea of 'type' - getting back to your nerd/babe context. It is also based on the idea (at least in the western culture) is that sex is 'bad' or 'dirty' - RESISTANCE. On the surface, some girls pretend that sex is the most foul act in the world - even though they enjoy it as much as we do. How many times have you heard a girl say in relation to sex 'that is disgusting!'? When the simple fact of the matter is that she will willingly have sex with her boyfriend/husband/lover and perform that same exact 'disgusting act' as long as it is monogamous/kept quiet, they are excited enough - or most importantly, if they let their resistance down...

Past Experience : The basic fact that girls do not 'give themselves away' all the time is partly based on past experience. It could be that their mother told them not to give their heart (amalgamating the idea of sex with their love/heart) away lightly, it could be a fear instilled by their father (my little girl is not a whore!) or it could be the one-night-stand that went and told everyone and their cousin about the great lay he had - and it got back to her! This verifies what I solemnly believe - if you have sex with a girl (one night stand) and want it to continue (not only with you, but with your SS brothers) DON'T TELL EVERYONE ABOUT IT! It validates ALL OF HER FEARS - what her father told her, what her mother told her and what society thinks of 'girls like that'. Either way, it leads to resistance and makes it harder to break.

That is where SS comes in...